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Worried About Someone Else?
If you suspect that someone you know is experiencing abuse, taking the time to learn about domestic abuse and how to support them are crucial steps in helping your loved one find safety and freedom.
Escape Bag Checklist
Creating an escape plan is a crucial part of ensuring your safety, and deciding what to take with you when leaving can be an emotionally challenging process. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, so consider reaching out to someone for support if needed.
Delete Searches or History
If you share a phone or computer with your abuser, it’s essential to be cautious when seeking help.
Packing a Bag
In preparation for leaving an abusive relationship, packing a bag with essential items is crucial. This bag should include important documents like your ID, passport, children’s birth certificates, marriage certificate, and protection order. Additionally, pack necessary medications, a spare cellphone if available, money or bank cards, a change of clothing, toiletries, and small toys or comfort items for your children.
Legal Considerations
Legal protection is a critical aspect of ensuring safety after leaving an abusive relationship. Make sure you have copies or photographs of important documents such as identification, birth certificates, marriage certificates, and any protection orders. These documents should be kept in a safe place, or stored digitally where they are easily accessible in case you need them later.
Staying Safe After Leaving
Once you’ve left an abusive situation, it’s important to take additional steps to ensure your safety. If you haven’t already, apply for a protection order. Shelters and organizations like Mosaic can assist with this process, and magistrates’ courts remain open, even during lockdowns.
Reaching Out for Support
In situations of domestic abuse, reaching out to trusted individuals or organizations can be crucial. It’s essential to identify a friend, colleague, family member, or local organization you trust and feel comfortable contacting for help. Once you’ve identified these trusted sources, reach out to them and explain your situation. Let them know you may need their support during challenging times. If someone isn’t comfortable helping, don’t be discouraged—reach out to others who might be willing.
Signaling for Help
When living in an abusive situation, having a discreet way to signal for help is vital. Develop a code word or phrase with your trusted contacts that will alert them when you’re in need of immediate assistance. This code should be simple yet clear, ensuring that those who receive it understand the urgency of the situation.
Planning to Leave
Leaving an abusive relationship is a complex and dangerous process that requires careful planning. The first step is to determine the safest time to leave. This might be when the abuser is asleep or distracted.
